Jake: I’m here with my two friends Mary and Joann and we’re going to let them introduce themselves so without further ado.

Mary: Hi my name is Mary. I am 31 years old. I met Joann when I was only 26 years old at the dentist office where I currently work. I was just living my best life didn’t know a thing about love at the time. It just so happened that she caught my attention. She was then in a relationship…which was fine. It all started with us having fun and we started to get to know each other. We started to build trust with each other and built a relationship. I started getting to know her family and then we spent time getting to know my family. My family is nationality is Mexican. I enjoy to hang out with my friends be with my niece and my little cousins and spend time with my family. My family and i are the traditional Mexican family. Our family does the whole mariachi band, tamborazo you know the usual Mexican traditions.

We started to build trust with each other and built a relationship.

Joann: All right, so, my name is Joann and I am 29 years old not yet Thirty. So I am a little bit of the opposite of her. My family and I are not the traditional hispanic family. My family is from Texas, but I was born here. It was definitely a transition for me adapting to her traditions, because there were very uncommon for me. I can say I enjoyed it well. Adopted into the family as far as you know, it took some time for them to, how can I say this, to accept us or myself. So it was definitely a big part of my life where I have proven to myself how much patience I had for her and that’s what showed the love. I told myself, this girl is worth it.

Jake: Please clarify for your friends what this means to you.

Mary: To be accepted by Average traditional Mexican family?

Jake: Yes.

Joann: When we were friends, we visit the park a lot with her family and I heard a lot of remarks saying hey Mary! What about this guy? Have you met a guy already? During this whole process, I thought a lot about, is a man best for her? I can take care of her just as much as a man can. I can love her hard. The traditions are “The man of the house”. The man will support, while the women keeps the house and family content. It doesn’t have to be like that. We can change things around.We balance each other out.

 

I have proven to myself how much patience I had for her and that’s what showed the love. I told myself, this girl is worth it.

Mary: Im a very reserve person, quiet and shy at times, joann on the other hand, she can talk to a stranger on the street, and can carry on a conversation.

Joann: But when you give Mary some tequila she’s a little more outgoing. Haha!

Jake: I think that’s the whole opposites attract yes?

Joann: Even at the point when we first met it was a challenge. Was she interested in me? Or not? She told me how about we go out and then we can just be friends and just kiss. I thought um, excuse me? Haha alright lets do this. Next thing I know she found out I was dating someone and got so upset. Thats when I knew she had more than interest.

Mary: It was very challenging, but I knew what I wanted. Like at the moment when we were dating and talking I was scared because,I know what I’ve been raised to be. My family is always saying things like for example, “you’re going to marry a prince and you’re going to marry a guy.” You know, when the Disney movies is going to be a princess and a prince and that’s how it always is but I’ve learned to share it. To show my family that it’s not always how it is in the books. It’s not always how it is in the movies.

Struggle helps people grow and change in life and It’s okay to be different and I’ve actually started to show my family that it’s okay to be different and they’ve noticed and seen my happiness. By me showing them what is my happiness, and being confident… is when they will trust me and know that it is ok to be with someone of the same sex. I knew that moment will be when my family will accept me for who i am. That’s what actually makes me stronger.

She told me how about we go out and then we can just be friends and just kiss. I thought um, excuse me?

Joann: I think it’s beautiful. It was hard. It was very hard and she’s definitely I could say a soldier and all of this definitely took a couple little weird punches, but she got through it.

Jake: what do you love about her?

Mary: Her beautiful eyes.And I love the way that she loves and trusts. I love her smile. I love when she knows how to do some things. Like she’ll do it. She’s not scared. She’s strong. She’s independent she will prove to anybody. She gets a new project she’ll go and she’ll start and she’ll finish. for example, she puts our dresser together Joann surprises me.

It can be the littlest things that she does to make me smile. She really is a one of a kind! I love the way that she loves. What I love best Is she so caring like when I see her caring for kids, that’s where it also got me because I want to have a child one day and she wants to have a child one day no matter how hard we know it’s going to be no matter What obstacles were going to have to take like we know it’s possible.

And it’s going to happen God willing one day. Oh, and I love that she believes in US!

Joann: I’m for myself. I mean because of the fact that I am I’m Jane of all trades for a person. I mean, I’m a very nurturing person. I like to take care. I like to take care of that person before I take care of myself and sometimes it gets a little rough being a Jane of all trades and be strong and protecting and sometimes it gets overwhelming. I have her to help me and it’s just a matter of her telling me it’s going to be okay, everything’s going to be great.Just her next to me is like the most beautiful presence I could ever ask for.

I love the way that she loves.
I love the way that she loves.

What I told her before is the first time that I actually thought that she was the love of my life and the thought about marrying her, we were in her basement and she was already dozing off. I was just staring at her and then I started crying and bawling my eyes out because I started thinking to myself I don’t not want anything to happen to this beautiful person. I couldn’t ever see her without my presence or us without each other. She’s amazing. She’s beautiful. She’s the kindest and most positive person I have ever met. I feel like I can’t live without her.

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